Well, I am 41. I live in South Bend, Indiana. I am also a father of three, My children are 20, 18, and 12. I am a recovering Addict and Alcoholic, My recovery is important to me, as well as my children. I was married twice, been divorced for almost 3 years. I like to do all sorts of things in my free time, just ask me about them. I have a full time job. I am very independent. I am a romantic or can be at times, the type of person to stop at the side of the road to pick flowers just to surprise you. I am a good cook, can surprise you with a candle lit dinner at the end of a hard day at work. I am honest and believe that a relationship needs honesty and trust in order to flourish. I am loyal. I believe that a relationship is about compromise. I feel that if you want to be with someone and you love that person then there should be no doubt in your heart. I also believe that a strong physical attraction is also important. Loving a person allows us to see past the imperfections that they see in themselves, and that is what makes that person unique and even more beautiful. I believe that you need to make the one you are with feel special, make them feel that they matter in your life.
I am looking for someone that can be themselves, and not try to change themselves to make others happy, just like I want to be myself. Someone I can hang out with and get to know, become best friends. I want something real that I believe in, not looking to hook up or play games. Someone that understands we all have a past and believes that people can change. I am free of drama and want to keep it that way! I don't play games. I don't want to fight or argue, I have had my fill of that, but there is nothing wrong with talking about a differences of ideas and beliefs. I think that the more you love someone the greater the pain you feel in failing that person. I know I have made more than my share of mistakes and know that I have areas of my life that I need to improve on. I just want someone that will want to work with me on those areas and maybe give a little guidance along the way. I may sometimes need a little motivation to get done things that need to get done. I am not perfect nor will I ever claim to be perfect. I am a good person and I deserve to be happy, we all do.